…there’s got to be a name for this…
Posted by Chief on May 20, 2006
…so what is it called when someone goes to start a project, and you offer your advice (since you're helping) on how you'd do it, the other person says ok or nothing at all, you go on with the project, then at the end, the other person is insanely mad at you for changing the plan?
Let's swap shirts: I'm going to make a dinner and am going to cook something in a certain pan. Someone has volunteered to help and recommends a different pan, and they even get it out. Hmmm… if I behave as in the first scenario, I'd let them do what they want and get mad at them afterwards for changing the plan.
What I'd really do is say "no, that's ok, I'm going to use this pan" get the pan, and continue on… because anything else is getting mad at someone for letting them control my actions, which is really just getting mad that I'm weak willed… right?
Please tell me if I'm screwed up on this viewpoint of mine!… Please…
As it is, I think I'm sleeping alone tonight because I didn't wash 2 cars at once…
…nevermind, this suddenly seems silly and I'm letting someone else control my emotions about a silly issue… let them be mad…
"…the serenity to accept the things I cannot change…"
